Friday, May 16, 2008
Groundbreaking Book for Wives Released
Dr. Barbara Stephens and Marsha Means, M.A. have released the first chapter of their new book focusing on the trauma and post traumatic stress wives of sex addicts experience.
Sexual addiction is a growing epidemic in our society due to several factors, including a sexually saturated media. Many men (and women) act out through extra-marital affairs, prostitution, obsessive masturbation, and addiction to internet relationships and pornography.
“I felt like I had no idea who he was. Information came out slowly and there were layers upon layers of lies that he told to conceal the level of his addiction. I had no idea who my husband was and it scared me … My world that had seemed so secure, was completely falling apart,” explains one wife.
Dr. Barbara Stephens conducted pioneering research into the trauma that sexual betrayal brings to a wife. Her studies indicated that a high percentage of women suffer from trauma and post traumatic stress.
Marsha Means, M.A. is a counselor, author, and former wife of a sex addict. Over the past fifteen years she has counseled thousands of women dealing with their husband’s sexual acting out.
Now, Dr. Stephens has joined forces with Marsha Means, M.A. to author “Through A Trauma Lens: Viewing Sexual Betrayal as Trauma”. These experienced counselors provide researched insight into the devastating pain and confusing symptoms women experience when faced with this addiction.
The first chapter of “Through A Trauma Lens: Viewing Sexual Betrayal as Trauma” is available online at http://www.awomanshealingjourney.com/booksandresources/index.php. The full edition is scheduled to be released later this year.
Saturday, May 10, 2008
Discovering sex addiction in your marriage hurts like no other pain experienced in life. It stabs; pierces; rips; shreds; and destroys your dreams and beliefs about your most sacred bond with another human being. Yet this side of my own heartache and loss, every day of my life I am privileged to find beautiful gems in the devastation and rubble of other women’s broken lives and dreams. Each day I learn anew that the world is full of wonderful, amazing women, though many of you are temporarily out of touch with your own miraculous beauty, value, and worth.
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
May 2008 Newsletter for Spouses of Sex Addicts
The Goose & the Power of the Group
Day after day I encounter trauma in the lives of hurting women—women who’ve experienced sexual betrayal from the man they love. In each of their voices and each of their stories I hear the raw, searing pain that comes with the discovery that much of what they have believed about their lives is not real. None of us is equipped to face, endure, process, and heal from such gut-level agony on our own.
Over the years I have come to see that the very best way to heal from the overwhelming trauma caused by sexual betrayal is in the company of a few other women who are sisters on this particular journey. We desperately need each other and the “power of the group” to make it through our healing process and whatever lies ahead. In a group with a guided healing process we begin to recognize we are not alone; it is not about us; and we do not have to be victims, among many other things.
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NEW! Preview Edition ...Viewing Sexual Betrayal as Trauma
Preview Marsha's new book with co-author Barb Steffens, Ph. D. These two counseling professionals shed light on the trauma you endure from your partner's sexual behavior."We understand that your pain is traumatic, and we're pleased to provide the first book that addresses your pain through a trauma lens and provides a route to healing, no matter what choices your husband makes." – Marsha Means, MA
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